(The backstory can be found here)
Im writing this because I cannot bear to see one person have to go through what I went through for over 6 years. There were times that I felt like I had a very serious illness because of all of my symptoms (and feeling the worry that my children might have this illness too whenever they were older because my of genes), times that I felt that it would never get better and I would be like this forever, times that I wanted to just sleep forever and just give up.
I want as many people as possible to know that what they are feeling is ok, its normal, and they DONT have to live like this. Anxiety is a dirty bitch and she doesn’t care who she hurts (pardon my language).
Merriam-Webster describes anxiety like this:
a : painful or apprehensive uneasiness of mind usually over an impending or anticipated ill
b : fearful concern or interest
c : a cause of anxiety
Anxiety can really present differently from person to person, so please do not wait to seek help because your symptoms do not match exactly to the typical symptoms. Sometimes anxiety can really make you feel like you are having some very serious medical problems, do not ignore it. Its ok to seek help and refuse to settle for your doctor not knowing whats wrong with you. Anxiety can be caused by early life experiences, biological vulnerabilities, social issues, evolutionary psychology, medical issues, and even just your genes.
There are six major of anxiety so be sure to see your doctor and mention that you feel that you might have a problem with anxiety. Don’t wait and hope that it will improve, there is no reason for you to have to suffer through anxiety attacks. Anxiety can really do some weird stuff to your body, some of the symptoms include:
- Feelings of panic, fear, and uneasiness
- Problems sleeping
- Cold or sweaty hands and/or feet
- Shortness of breath
- Heart palpitations
- An inability to be still and calm
- Dry mouth
- Numbness or tingling in the hands or feet
- Muscle tension
Looking back I had almost every single symptom in the book and yet multiple doctors failed to diagnose me correctly. I feel that had I spoken up more and insisted that I got help that maybe one of the doctors could have helped me quicker.
Tips to help you beat anxiety:
- Write down your worries. Blog it, keep it private if you need to but know that if its public people will hear you and possible help.
- Create an anxiety worry period. Each day set aside time to worry, time to focus on the negative thoughts without trying to correct them. By doing this the rest of your day is meant to be free of anxiety.
- Accept it. By worrying it doesn’t make life predictable- it keeps you from living. Learn to accept that some things you cant plan, life is uncertain and some things don’t require immediate solutions.
- Practice relaxation techniques. Try meditation, muscle relaxation, and deep breathing because these can reduce anxiety symptoms and can even increase happy feelings.
- Eat better. Start with a good breakfast, and eat healthy meals throughout the day. Low blood sugar can make you feel even more anxious.
- Reduce alcohol and smoking. Naturally these lead to anxiety and are just bad for you over all.
- Say goodbye to caffeine. This one is hard, but you can do it and after a few days decaf coffee isn’t too bad. Remember soda have a LOT of caffeine too.
- Exercise often. Exercise is a natural stress buster and anxiety reliever. Try to exercise at least 30 minutes a day.
- Get regular sleep. Try for 7-9 hours of quality sleep every night. A lack of sleep will cause anxious thoughts and feelings.
If you think that you might be experiencing anxiety and need help, please do not wait to reach out to your health care provider. Anxiety is not your fault, in fact it is pretty normal too, so don’t let embarrassment hold you back either because anxiety is very treatable! With the help of your doctor he can point you in the correct direction to getting yourself back healthy and happy again. If this is relatable to you and you want to talk to someone don’t hesitate to reach out to me… you are not alone.
Random side note…. I used to bite my nails religiously, after getting on the proper medicine I have stopped biting and have amazing nails. Who knew that my nail biting was caused by anxiety!