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How Young is Too Young?

Yesterday was the day that all parents dread, one of them at least…. The day that your child has their first boyfriend/girlfriend.

I figured that I still had a decent amount of time before my kids had any real interested in the opposite sex. I mean my oldest is 12 and my youngest is 9, far too young to have any interest. I mean I dont recall actually having any interest in the opposite sex until like 7th grade, and I dont think that was because I was really interested but more because I felt pressured to like boys like the other girls did (don’t worry, that changed fast by 8th grade).

Anyways, yesterday Ethan informed me that he had his SECOND girlfriend. photo-1 While I know that it is completely innocent, it hurt my heart way deep down. It upsets me that kids are growing up way faster these days than they should no matter how much us parents want to stop it. Ethan was asking when I had my first boy friend, and when I had my first kiss, the kid is basically begging for “the talk”, which John is going to have to give ASAP before its too late. I don’t recall ever having that talk with my mom and while I wont play ignorant, I am pretty sure it had something to do with me getting pregnant at 16. While I don’t regret it for a single moment, I don’t want my kids to go through all of the stuff I had to because of it.

Luckily my other two could care less about the opposite sex as far as I can tell. In fact, Jayde told me that she is waiting for her first boyfriend to be just like her daddy… just less gassy. She is a very wise girl, he’s certainly a keeper.

Now the real questions are, how on earth do we approach “the talk” and isnt 11 just way too young for this?? HELP!

4 thoughts on “How Young is Too Young?

  1. Oh man. I dread these days ahead. I started reading a book to be able to help me give “the talk.” My eldest is in 3rd grade, so I’m trying to figure out appropriate ways to carve these discussions up into phases. From what I’ve been reading, it’s not just one “talk.” You will likely spread it out and add layers of detail as the child matures. Another good suggestion I read is that you let them ask questions, and then respond back and ask what they think certain things are. That way you can gauge where they are at, and perhaps get a sense of why they are asking and what they are hearing from their peers. Good luck!

  2. Oh, I do remember those days. However, my son waited a long time. He was 16 before he even thought about girls like that. Not sure what age is a good age because every kid is different and every situation is different. Good Luck.

  3. UGH! It starts that early?? My son is still got a while to be there but I wonder the same thing. How do you have “THE TALK” with a child? If you find some magic way tell me! 😉

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