I hate talking on the phone, so whenever a number calls that I do not recognize I will not even bother answering the phone. But for some reason yesterday when an unknown number called I actually answered it…. and Im glad I did….
Me : Hello
School: Is this Ethans Mom?
* great, Ethans being a pain in the butt to his teacher again (he’s NOT a bad kid but he likes to be the center of certain teachers attention).
Me: *gulp* Yes….
School: Ethan got into an altercation with another student and chipped his tooth.
Me: Are you kidding?! (In hindsight I can’t believe I asked that).
School: No ma’am…. (she said something else but at this point I was raging)
Me: Ok, Im getting my husband and coming right away!
School: Ma’am…. (says something else)
Me: Look, Im freaking out, Ill be there in about 10 minutes.
So I slap some clothes on (yes, I work at home in my pajamas- Don’t judge), take my anxiety medicine and speed to get John from work, luckily he works literally across the street. The whole ride I am literally cursing every single car that got into my way, and every single red light that stopped me. The entire ride I trying to talk myself down so that I don’t completely lose it, and of course John was trying to cool me down a little as well (Im quite the hot head whenever I get upset).
Whenever we arrived poor Ethan was sitting in the vice principals office hunched over crying.
(INSERT THE MOMENT THAT I FELT MY HEART ACTUALLY BREAK)
I have never felt so absolutely helpless. I had one job, to protect him. Yet, there was not a single thing that I could do to protect or defend him now.
How dare someone lay their hands on my child?! How can this actually be happening?! Where was the teacher?! Was this really happening?!
Come to find out that the child who hit him was actually one of Ethans friends, this very same kid has been to our house, this same kid I have sat and talked with and joked around with. Apparently the two boys had a falling out a week or so ago and decided not to be friends any longer.
So whenever Ethan saw the kid kicking a ball against the wall in gym he decided he wanted to play as well. Apparently the boys played a little and the ball got kicked away and Ethan ran after it and the other kid thought that Ethan was taking the ball away and decided to run up to Ethan and punch him in the face.
My first problem is that this kid was clearly not taught how to correctly respond to his emotions. Who hits someone over a ball?! Especially in 6th grade!
Ethan did NOT hit the kid back. Even though I have specifically told him to knock the crap out of anyone who lays a hand on him. Which is exactly how I was raised by my mom. This proves that Ethan is more rational than me, because he knew that he wasn’t going to achieve anything by hitting this kid back because it was a totally unreasonable reason to fight.
Luckily Ethans tooth was able to be repaired with little pain to him, although he will have to have this cover replaced many times until he is 18, at which time we will have to pay to have a permeant cover put on. The tooth looks pretty good too, you can hardly tell that it isn’t his real tooth. The school is only paying for this initial time (as of right now) for the tooth to be cared for. The teacher wasnt even around when this happened, hopefully he will be reprimanded. We have a meeting with the coach to talk about what he should have done. We also (hopefully) have a meeting with the parents of the other kid. Though knowing them, and the fact that they couldn’t even bother to come to the school that day, or even call us to apologize, and even allowed the kid to continually bully and threaten Ethan even after all this happened I highly doubt that we will gain anything from this meeting. The other kid did get suspended for three days, but with the kid still threatening Ethan I highly doubt that he was affected at all.
Now normally I don’t post on the weekends because this is my time with my family, but I wanted to make a point to write this because 1. I need to get this off my chest 2. Quite a few of the kids friends parents read my blog, and in which case I hope this kids parents read this post and feel absolutely terrible.
Of course whenever I added the photos to instagram yesterday it got me thinking….
Do you teach your child to hit back if they are hit?
*Side note: whenever I finish this post I am looking into registering the kids into karate.